I offer a lovely post session ritual where I ask clients to compose a haiku to help integrate their sensual experience with me. I do this because it provides psychological benefits, like enjoying greater mindfulness, releasing suppressed emotions, and finally, enhancing your natural creativity. But more importantly, the ability to write beautiful poetry is a tantric lovemaking skill, one that all men wishing to attain a state of sensual mastery should consider. It’s just as important as that other skill of the tongue, haha. Plus, it’s fun!
Having received many haiku and poems, I have learned a few things about this art. For example, one side benefit of this exercise is to increase your happiness. Let me explain why…
Ecstatic poetry – like the works of the Zen master Ikkyū Sōjun (一休宗純) or the Sufi mystic Jalal ad-Din Rumi – is all about losing oneself in the beloved, which allows the writer to transcend into higher states of consciousness. When you’re in an ego-centric state, it is so much easier to feel existential pain and get tangled in worries about the past and future. It is only when you can let go of normal thinking, that you can move past ruminative thought, to revel in the joy of being fully in the present moment. The present moment – that is, being fully in the here and now – is actually quite blissful. It is in this selfless state that your beloved has the potential to become the Tao, or some manifestation of the divine principle, for you.
One way to achieve this progression into radical presence and higher consciousness is to move into a space of loving kindness. This is when you can let go of that chatter in the back of your mind that nags you about slights that wounded you, about not being good enough, about not getting what you want, about the past and the future. The key to loving kindness is to start with someone you already love, and then to expand to others you don’t love yet, and finally to everyone and everything in the entire universe. And so, this little practice of writing a haiku is to help bring you into your present experience, by tapping into a state of adoration and gratitude. It is actually a lesson in learning how to be truly happy.
Let me provide an example – one very sweet client came to me complaining that his wife had lost interest in sex, and he felt trapped by love because he couldn’t get want he wanted. He felt conflicted about seeing me, but I simply told him that it wasn’t a big deal, and that Alexandre Dumas said, centuries ago, “The chains of marriage are so heavy that it takes two to bear them, and sometimes three.” I assured him that I would never threaten his marriage, and would provide a “pressure valve” so he could actually be happier in his marriage.
He has a brilliant mind, but I noticed that his first poetical offerings were all about his pain, full of grieving. I replied that this focus on his seeing himself as trapped, was actually forcing him to be unhappy. I suggested letting go of such thoughts, and simply get lost in devotional bliss. As he professed great love for his wife, I suggested he write for her an entire book of love poems. Something so epic that she’d change her tune. He gladly accepted the challenge, and is now happily writing poetry for the love of his life. And thus, I hope that he is now focused on adoration instead of anxiety, transcending the pain of not getting as much pussy as he desires, and seeing that such pain can actually be poignant and beautiful.
Finally, I wanted to point out that poetry is sexy. The best example of how sexy is to watch the film Dangerous Beauty (see: https://www.tiktok.com/@eloramorgan/video/7272473194009824558), about the brilliant Venetian courtesan, Veronica Franco, who revels in poetry duels. Let us aspire to this level of dangerous beauty!
So, if you want to play, just meditate for a minute, be fully present, feel what you feel, and send me a haiku. One fellow who hasn’t even seen me yet sent this one –
Also, please note that I receive all haiku as expressions of your loving kindness. Thank you.
