One of life’s sweetest pleasures is working through your bucket list. You know, stuff like traveling to Bali, seeing the Northern Lights, skydiving, eating at Noma or French Laundry, and other adventures. These are the places and experiences that bring meaning to life.
Now, I’m an expert on a different kind of bucket list, the one you won’t post anywhere because it’s NSFW. It’s a list of sensual experiences we secretly dream about, and few actually write down. Maybe it’s a threesome? Or maybe it’s experiencing a nuru massage, or a milking table, or getting pegged? This secret sensual bucket list can reveal what you need to find deeper happiness.
The first step is to get organized, which means to make a list of everything you’ve ever wanted to experience naked. Come up with a comprehensive list. Write it all down! Every single kinky thing you’ve ever wanted to do. If it’s a threesome or foursome, write down all the specific delights you want during that group sex experience
Now, I’m an expert on a different kind of bucket list, the one you won’t post anywhere because it’s NSFW. It’s a list of sensual experiences we secretly dream about, and few actually write down. Maybe it’s a threesome? Or maybe it’s experiencing a nuru massage, or a milking table, or getting pegged? This secret sensual bucket list can reveal what you need to find deeper happiness.
The first step is to get organized, which means to make a list of everything you’ve ever wanted to experience naked. Come up with a comprehensive list. Write it all down! Every single kinky thing you’ve ever wanted to do. If it’s a threesome or foursome, write down all the specific delights you want during that group sex experience
Next, order them by how much you want to experience them. For now, don’t think about the perceived cost and time commitment required, as in easy and cheap ones first. For example, the cost of a vacation in SE Asia might feel a bit more daunting than asking a girl to put a finger up your butt so you can try that. Put the sensual experience you want most at the top of the list. Once you’ve ordered the list by the strength of desire, let’s focus on the top ten.
The next step is ask yourself why you want each of these ten items. This will reveal a deeper understanding of what drives you. For example, let’s start with something simple, like a foot fetish. If this is something you’re drawn to, but you’ve never experienced because your wife thinks it’s weird, then asking why might lead to realizing that you don’t feel fulfilled because you have never been encouraged to explore your sexuality with greater freedom. In fact, ask five whys it’s appealing to drill deeper. What you actually hunger for might be greater freedom, some unfulfilled desire from your past, or maybe a partner who celebrates your kinkiness, instead of shaming you.
Also, think about skill-based bucket list items. For the usual bucket list, it could be about learning how to cook a certain cuisine, or learning a new language, or mastering photography, while traveling to an exotic destination. But for a sensual bucket list, it might be overcoming something like premature ejaculation, or learning how to master the art of oral sex. Again, asking why will lead to greater understanding about what really matters to you and what you need to be truly happy.
By the way, what if I told you there’s a smart way to tick off more items for less money? The secret lies combining experiences to minimize your expense per experience. For a typical list, it usually means combining the Tuscan cooking workshop with a trip to Italy. For my clients, I designed my Eticket sensual tasting menu so we could strategically combine sensual aspirations. In one session, you check off nuru, foot fetish and prostate play! Also, if overcoming premature ejaculation is an aspiration, check out my Erotic Mastery training, which leverages Masters & Johnson’s techniques like Sensate Focus.
So this is how you can use a sensual bucket list to reveal what you need to feel truly happy and map a voyage to fulfillment in life. You can start now—and this won’t cost you a cent—by creating your own bucket list of deep desires, which can help illuminate a new path in life you, that is filled with pleasure and greater sensual self expression, and will slowly lead to your empowerment as a fully sexual being.
Please feel free to share your sensual bucket list in the comment section below.