Let’s talk about the wonderful world of fetishes, and two in particular—the sneeze fetish and cake sitting. Let’s start with the sneeze fetish. While most people reach for tissues, a surprisingly passionate community gets turned on when someone sneezes. And no, this isn’t a prank post just in time for spring allergies.
Believe it or not, there are over 500,000 registered members in online sneeze fetish forums—yes, half a million people find sneezing sexy. Who knew? That’s more people than live in many major cities, all united by one thing: the deep appreciation of the human sneeze.
The sneeze fetish community has built a vibrant, respectful space where enthusiasts share videos, discuss techniques (how to sneeze cutely, dramatically, or with maximum flair), and support each other in embracing this unique passion. It’s less about the biology and more about the emotion, the aesthetics, the shared moment of humanity. It’s all about the sneeze as performance art.
But I was really curious about the why and the how of it. So when a client asked me to give it a try, I asked him to describe how exactly this fetish works. He said, “There’s this herbal powder from India that makes people sneeze as a way to cure a sinus headache. You’d use that and sneeze on my chest. This will get me hard.” When I asked whythe act of sneezing is so sexy, he replied, “I’m not sure. I guess I enjoy how a sneeze takes over a woman’s body and forces her into a reflex without her being able to do anything but surrender to it. There’s definitely some kind of a dom/sub element to it.”
And next, the cake-sitting fetish—a niche kink where individuals are aroused by the act of someone sitting on a cake or pie, and making a delicious mess of it. This fetish carries deep psychological undercurrents. At its core, this fetish blends elements of sensory play, taboo, and controlled destruction. Psychologically, it may tap into subconscious associations with indulgence, rebellion against order, and the thrill of messiness in a world that demands cleanliness and restraint.
The juxtaposition of something sweet and celebratory (cake) with chaotic action (sitting, squashing, splattering) can symbolize a release of inhibited desires or the breaking of social norms. For some, it’s about the squish, texture, temperature. Like many fetishes, cake-sitting isn’t about the cake itself, but what it represents: permission to indulge, to be messy, to find pleasure in the unexpected. When consensual and safe, such kinks can enhance intimacy by providing permission to play, and thus, reminding us that human desire is as varied—and delicious—as dessert.
In a world that usually tries to box desire into narrow, “acceptable” categories, cake sitting and the sneeze fetish remind us that pleasure comes in infinite forms. And every form of fetish deserves respect.
Let’s take a moment to appreciate the bigger picture. Fetishes—yes, even the quirky ones—are not “abnormal sexual impulses” to be shamed or ridiculed; they’re actually pathways to expanded sensual pleasure and greater happiness. Think about it: when we allow ourselves to explore what truly excites us—without shame or judgment—we open doors for all of us to deeper self-awareness, intimacy, and joy.
And really, what’s so bad about that?
PS, here’s a list of interesting fetishes, please share yours in the comments!
Agrexophilia: Having others know about your private sexual activities
Autospermatophilia: Guys getting turned on by eating their own ejaculate
Choreophilia: Sexual arousal from dancing
Coulrophilia: Sexual attraction to clowns
Dacryphilia: Sexual arousal from watching a partner cry
Dendrophilia: Sexual attraction to trees
Endytophilia: Sexual preference for clothed sex
Jouissance: Addiction to overwhelming ecstatic erotic trance states
Klismaphilia: Sexual arousal from enemas
Kopophilia: Sexual arousal from exhaustion
Melolagnia: Sexual arousal from music
Nanophilia: Sexual attraction to short people
Narratophilia: Sexual arousal from dirty talk
Nasolingus: Sexual arousal from sucking on a person’s nose
Podophilia: Intense sexual interest in feet
Pygophilia: Getting turned on by buttocks
Quirofilia: Sexual attraction to hands
Retifism: Sexual arousal from shoes
Robophilia: Turned on by humanoid robots
Sitophilia: Sexual arousal from food (like cake sitting)
Titillagnia: Sexual arousal from tickling
Tripsolagnia: Sexual arousal from having one’s hair shampooed
Troilism: Sexual arousal from watching one’s partner have sex with someone else, aka cuck play
Urtication: Sexual arousal from being stung by nettles
Vaccinophilia: Sexual arousal from vaccinations
Zelophilia: Sexual arousal from jealousy