Just as people express and receive love in different ways, they also experience sexual intimacy through unique “sex languages.” Understanding your partner’s primary sex language—and your own—can transform physical connection from routine to revelatory. So instead of the five love languages that are popular today,. there are six sex languages. They correspond to the senses and how our brains process information. Below are descriptions of these languages, along with examples and suggestions that illustrate how these intimate dialects show up in our sexual relationships.
Touch Me
While everyone enjoys touch during sex, those with a primary sex language based on touch and tactile stimuation, will thrive on non-goal-oriented physical connection: tracing fingertips down a spine, holding hands during climax, cuddling for 20 minutes after, or even playful tickling that builds tension. For them, the whole body is an erogenous zone—and aftercare is part of the act. Now, as for you and me, you will enjoy my nuru body slides which maximizes skin on skin touch. However, Americans are generally touch deprived, so a lot of guys feel that this is their core language.
Sensual Acts of Service
For these folks, foreplay begins long before clothes come off. They feel most sexually connected when their partner shows care through thoughtful actions: drawing a bath, massaging their backs and tummies, adjusting the room temperature, or even doing the dishes so they can relax into intimacy without mental clutter. The reality is that these people requires an act of service to feel truly appreciated, so why not lie back and let me give you a nice blowjob? Or better yet, try out my cowgirl and let me do all the work, Asian girls do it best!
Talk Dirty to Me
People whose primary sex language is verbal intimacy crave spoken desire—the right words at the right time can ignite their arousal more than any touch. This includes affirmations, dirty talk, whispered fantasies, or even poetic compliments about their body or presence during intimacy. So if you get off on dirty talk, I can scratch that itch for you! This is best during a full service session, and harder to do during oral. haha. So let me dress up like a Japanese school girl who makes those sweet sounds you love, and you can ask me… who’s your daddy!
The Scent of a Woman
If you love to lick on a girl’s toes or have an addiction to cunnilingus, you are probably sexually activated through pheromones. Olfactory stimulation is very primal. If so, I’m really good at foot fetish fantasy play! I have a theory that the sweat glands of my feet and feminine juices contain an elixir of neurohormones that seem to make the eyes of certain men glaze over. If this is you, come give me a taste!
Note: Read this to delve deeper into this language: https://missyumiyang.nl/?p=1030
Eye Candy
The fifth sex/love language is for a person whose primary sense mode is visual. But in this case, it’s sometimes better to let me put a blindfold on you, so you can delve deeper into the tantric approach, and maybe mix it up with a llttle kinkybaku! For example, if you are a bit addicted to porn, you’ll find that looking inward, will balance the need to look outward. So slow down and seek a partner who knows how to be fully present for you, and not to their phone, their job, their many problems and issues. It’s like turning off notifications inside your brain.
The Intensity of Orgasm
There is actually a sixth sense, based on the kinesic qualities of your inner sensations. This is the sex language of interoceptive sensuality—surfing the inner wave of orgasm. Let me explain: a flood of “feel-good” hormones, during and after orgasm—including dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin— is really the onlly way to feel fully satisfied in a sexual way. People who resonate with this aren’t primarily driven by external stimuli—they seek deep attunement to their own bodily sensations: the build-up of breath, the pulse of blood, the subtle tremors before climax. They value privacy, rhythm, and the freedom to fully surrender to their inner landscape without pressure to perform or reciprocate.
For these special people, orgasm isn’t just a peak—it’s a full-body conversation with themselves, ideally supported by a partner who creates safe, quiet space for that inward journey. If this is you, you might enjoy my orgasmic resonance offering, which is an exploration into bigger, longer and deeper orgasms. This is essentially a “tantric” offering, that utilizes some prostate stimulation techniques to achieve a higher state.
To wrap up, keep in mind that just like love languages, sex languages aren’t rigid categories—they can shift with mood, life stage, or context. The key is curiosity, communication, and a willingness to ask: “How would you feel most sensually fulfilled?” Because great sex isn’t just about technique—it’s about speaking each other’s intimate dialect fluently… whether that’s through words, touch, presence, scent, service, or the sacred quiet of embodied release.
How I work with my clients
Finding your primal and secondary sex languages can help us decide what kind of experience you most desire and would find fullfillment with! I call what I do a “psycho-sexological analysis” based on your primary and secondary sex languages. This info helps me figure out how you’re sexually wired, so I can carefully configure the sensual experience you are about to have with me. This is how we can achieve a deeper level of sensual fulfillment for you!
It’s a fun process. Book me to start the journey!
Wow Yumi.! What a wonderful description of love languages. I really enjoyed your descriptions and the energy you put into connection and pleasure. For me, mutual pleasure is the ultimate turn on, but as you said it’s situational and shifts and we all (probably) are a mix. Reading this and your sexual liberation comments, well, resonate. You are like no other.
I am so glad we resonate! Mutual pleasure is truly the ultimate turn on!
I try!